How one working mom built a career on her own terms

by
Jenna Vassallo
Feb 21, 2024
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While it might not always feel like it, working mothers have come a long way in terms of controlling their careers.

Our recent podcast guest, WSJ reporter and author Joann Lublin, wrote about this evolution in her book “Power Moms,” where she discovered that the Boomer generation truly paved the way for their daughters by boldly reshaping the business world in America.

One such example of a Millennial parent who has built a career on her own terms is Amanda Goetz. Amanda is a single mom of three and highly successful brand builder, creator and marketing leader who formerly ran marketing at The Knot.

We chatted with Amanda to hear all about her working parent journey. Here are three of the highlights from our conversation:

“What was hard was stopping and actually coming up for air.”

Over the course of three years, Amanda got a divorce, built a company backed by $2 million in venture capital, worked as a fractional CMO and moved her family to Miami. In other words, she was always going - but she liked it that way.

The hard part, she found, wasn’t juggling all of these areas—it was slowing down.

“I don't think we realize because when we're juggling work and kids and we're constantly just like an object in motion stays in motion, we are just going,” she said.

After winding up in the ER twice in one week having panic attacks, Amanda knew it was time to take a pause—and, eventually, she sold her company and re-entered the workforce in a corporate role.

“I did go back to the corporate world and I have phrased that as my spin cycle.”

After selling her startup in 2022, Amanda entered what she calls her “spin cycle."

After years of grinding, she took a position as a VP of marketing at a large company - which was a lot easier for her compared to what she was responsible for as a founder.

But in 2023, Amanda started to get the itch to strike out on her own and create something again.

Amanda is now a successful solopreneur with multiple revenue streams that all come back to personal and professional growth strategies.

As someone who built her own personal brand on LinkedIn, one noteworthy offering is her daily Break An Egg! Newsletter, which she co-authors with Jack Appleby to help subscribers feel comfortable being their authentic selves on LinkedIn.

“Am I okay with the view I have, or am I ready to climb to the next mountain?”

Like the spin cycle, Amanda often asks herself whether she’s content with the current state of life or if she’s ready to move on to the next thing.

She uses her “stove” exercise to help with this moment of reflection.

At the start of every month, Amanda sets her priorities for family, career, fitness, fun, travel and other categories. She then determines which priority sits on each burner—and which position and whether she needs to rotate them.

This allows her to change her intentions as necessary and to enjoy the moment vs. always anticipating the end goal.

“I am very much in this state of enjoying the whole journey, the process,” she said. “I call [my newsletter] Life's A Game for a reason…right now I feel like my life [is a game of] Chutes and Ladders I’ll climb up something and then I'll be like, well, that didn't work. We'll keep going over here!”

She has shared this same mindset to her children.

“And I say this to my kids all the time: If you are here to just win this game, then you have a 25% chance of happiness. There's four of us playing right now. If you're here to have fun playing the game, you have a 100% chance of happiness,” she said.

To celebrate all we’ve accomplished, our team shared what they’re most proud of since joining the team:

I'm most proud of how much we have done to improve the single hardest moment for women's careers (going on parental leave) ... one that is often shrouded in insecurity and fear. We've been able to help advocate for so many women (and men!) in a way that is empowering and truly life-changing.

Allison Whalen, CEO & Founder

What am I most proud of? Growth! Growing a category of support that didn't exist before Parentaly. Growing from a one-woman bootstrapped operation to a global team of 25+ employees and coaches. Growing our overall impact for working parents, with companies investing in our parental leave programming to support employees all over the world. And growing as humans: new babies, new friends, new life experiences... all while tackling new and exciting work challenges together.

Rich Burke, Head of Growth

When I reflect on what I am personally most proud of during my time here, it's working alongside a team where we constantly evolve and optimize everything that we do in order to deliver the best possible experience for the folks going through our programs. It sounds cheesy, but there are processes that my team and I used to do 100% manually that are now completely automated and systems in place that have become second nature to how we operate. Working with such thoughtful, smart, and creative people is incredible.

Sara Ophoff, Senior Program Manager

I’m most proud about doing work that makes parents feel confident and empowered about their careers during a time that can be overwhelming and challenging – not only for our clients and users who go through Parentaly’s programs, but also with our advocacy work on LinkedIn, through our podcast and other big campaigns that make a difference. It’s been pretty rewarding to build a brand people know and love because what we’re doing resonates with so many employees’ experiences in the workforce.

Jenna Vassallo, Head of Brand & Marketing

I am so proud of the way we've approached growth with such care and intentionality - with every adjustment we've made to our offerings, we've never lost sight of our goal to provide the most supportive and valuable experience for our users. I love looking back on the early stages of conversations and building that have led us to the experience we offer today. Personally, I am extremely proud of the work I've done to scale and automate our backend!

Rachel Andes, Program Associate

I am most proud of the work we do every single day to make a positive impact on working parents! Everyday I get to work with an amazing group of people…we work hard but we also have fun.

Sarah Gruber, Client Partner

I'm proud of scaling an employee experience that consistently delivers positive outcomes for new parents and their organizations. Our north star has always been the user, and we never sacrifice our high quality bar!

Mansi Kothari, VP of Product & Experience

I feel a sense of pride that I get to work behind the scenes supporting everyone. I’m proud to see all of the collaboration between the team and how Parentaly positively impacts employees.

Leo Manalo, Executive Assistant

I'm most proud of going through the Parentaly program myself! I'm so proud to work for and promote this company in a time where parental leave and supportive policies are at the forefront of a national conversation. But beyond this, I'm most proud to call myself a participant.

Emmy Carragher, Enterprise Partnerships

I’m really proud of the work I did to expand our coaching bench globally at Parentaly. It was so rewarding, not to mention insightful, to connect with talented coaches from around the globe. This expansion not only enriched our coaching offerings but also strengthened our commitment to making a meaningful impact on families all over the world.

Nicole Hagemann-Bex, Senior Coaching Operations Manager

I have tremendous pride in the knowledge that what I am doing will change the career landscape for new parents, particularly mothers. This will make it more likely that my daughter can have a career AND a family without worrying about the unintentional negative impact of taking parental leave. Nothing makes me prouder than that.

Mindy Himmel-Brown, Strategic Partnerships

In my short time at Parentaly, I'm proudest of the work we're doing with our clients' ERG groups to elevate the stories and advice of actual working parents. It's such an impactful way to spread the word about Parentaly as an essential resource for all people growing their families, and the managers who support them!

Alex Diskin, Enterprise Account Manager

I'm most proud about using LinkedIn to connect with others. I was recently able to share a helpful return to work doc with 50+ new people looking to make a difference at their company. Was pretty cool that people from Chewy, McDonald's, Honda, Cisco, AWS, Walmart and more want to integrate just a piece of what we have to offer. Also...I'm so proud of the way I feel as an employee at Parentaly. For the first time in my career my personal interests align with my professional interests and I've never felt more motivated.

Jenny Hurwitz, Strategic Partnerships

I'm really proud of being able to help the Experience team by handling the supportive functions so they can focus on the bigger picture. It feels great to know that I’m making things easier for them and contributing to the team’s success.

James Mango, Executive Assistant
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Learn more about Amanda’s solopreneur journey and what’s next for her

Listen to the full episode of The False Tradeoff!