Introduction
In the fall of 2017 I returned to work after my first parental leave. Because I had truly unplugged and focused on my son for three months, I was returning to work with a fresh perspective: big ideas, more ambition, and a desire to dive right back into the fast-paced chaotic world of a VC-backed startup.
But my excitement quickly disintegrated as I realized exactly how my parental leave had negatively impacted the business, my team - and in turn, my career.
I returned to a team that was demoralized. My direct reports - ever loyal and hard-working - had routinely worked 14+ hour days to try to hit our sales goals and make up for my absence. Not only did they miss the goals - they didn’t feel supported, and as a result one of my direct reports resigned shortly after I returned.
When I tried to get caught up on everything I’d missed while out, it was nearly impossible. No one remembered what had happened three weeks ago, let alone three months ago. From product improvements to systems changes, everything felt new, different and confusing.
There were critical decisions made without my input while I was out that impacted our team. I disagreed with some of the changes, but had to “live with them.”
And the list went on and on . . . the changes, the issues, the disruption that all stemmed from my parental leave felt insurmountable.
My employer had done everything they thought they could do to make my experience a positive one - including promoting me, and constantly asking what more they could do to help.
Yet there I was dusting off my resume. Because I actually thought it would be easier to move on, and start somewhere fresh, than to dig myself out of this mess.
Confused, I polled my business school peers about their experiences, and the feedback was remarkably consistent: they had absolutely loved the time they’d spent with their newborns, but acknowledged that their time away had had varying degrees of negative impact on their careers.
And that’s when it hit me: paid parental leave is only half the equation. Parental leave without the appropriate support systems in place to make it a success can actually backfire. As companies now offer more and more paid parental leave (which is great), this problem will only increase until we do something about it. Because the more time employees spend away without proper planning and return support the harder it is to reacclimate and continue to thrive at work.
To my surprise, I found a seemingly endless number of vendors and resources to help with the health and parenting aspects of welcoming a baby, but I couldn’t find a single company focused on the career and business impacts of parental leave.
I was dumbfounded. For all that we as a society have done to support women in business, women in leadership, increasing women on boards, how is it possible that such a glaringly obvious problem is left unaddressed?
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