How to set your OOO for parental leave

by
Allison Whalen
Aug 22, 2022
Pregnant person typing

Introduction

One of the last things most expecting parents think about is what they should say in their out-of-office (OOO) auto-reply as they head out on parental leave.  

While your OOO can be as simple as stating you’re out on leave and won’t be answering emails, we have found that taking a few minutes to thoughtfully consider your OOO reply before you go on leave can pay off in the long-run.

The first step in deciding what to include in your OOO is to think about the goal of the message and just how much (or little) you want to share.

Are multiple colleagues covering different parts of your role? Do you want people to know when you’ll be back? Can you use your experience planning for leave to help others do the same, or advocate for parental leave in general?

We’ve outlined a few specific questions to ask yourself while drafting your OOO message to help ensure your return-to-work is as seamless as possible, as your re-onboarding should not require you to comb through months of emails that may or may not need your attention after being out for several weeks.

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Question 1: Who should you send people to?

  • Option 1: Designate one person
    If you have one person who is the obvious choice to quarterback all of your email and is aware they’ll be the go-to for anything that comes to your inbox, that’s great! Send them to that person.
  • Option 2: Send to different people based on topic
    If you have a few buckets of responsibilities with different colleagues covering for you while you are out, it can be helpful to try to direct folks to those specific coverage people. This will help provide those inbound requests with a better experience and hopefully prevents them from being passed around while you are out.
  • Option 3: Create a group email address
    Perhaps you’re not sure who should handle the inflows of requests you receive while you’re out on leave. A creative solution we have seen is to direct people to a generic email address like “allison_leave@parentaly.com” if they need urgent help. This is great because 90% of emailers won’t follow up (their ask is not important enough) and then you can have a few people monitor that inbox instead of  sharing out their direct emails. Bonus: when you return, you can check that inbox to see what “more urgent” topics came up while you were out.

Question 2: Do you want to include when you will be back in your OOO?

Most people will include a line like “I’m out on parental leave until February.” But we encourage everyone to think twice about whether or not you want to share that. Instead, you can avoid sharing a date, or you can pick a date that is actually a month after your real return date.

The challenge with sharing your return date is people may then barrage you with emails right when you’re back from work since they know that date - and that is the last thing you need. But if you don’t share the date - or you give a later date - then by the time they follow up with you, you’ve already returned, onboarded, and dug out of the depths of your inbox.

Question 3: Do you want to “make a statement” about parental leave?

Fancy yourself a parental leave advocate? This is a great place to make a statement about parental leave to voice your support. Your OOO will be sent to hundreds of people in your absence - what is something you feel about parental leave that you want them all to think about? For example:

  • Giving a shout-out to your company for their parental leave policy (and sharing details about it)
  • Sharing research about paid parental leave and its huge benefits
  • Directing people to helpful resources if they feel their company’s policy could be improved (shameless plug - we’d love for you to link out to our "request to increase my company's parental leave policy" template!)

Example Standard OOO:

Thank you for reaching out! I am currently enjoying a 16-week fully paid parental leave after welcoming my second child.

If you need to speak to someone immediately, please email allison_leave@parentaly.com and the team will direct your request to the right person.

Note that when I return I will likely not be reading through or responding to every email I received so I encourage you to email the address above with anything urgent.

Thank you!

Allison

Example research/resources you can link to in your OOO to advocate for better paid parental leave:

Depending on the statement you want to make, you can link to the following:

  • How to increase your paid leave policy (here)
  • What other top employers are providing for paid parental leave (here and here)
  • How small companies can provide parental leave (here)
  • How parental leave helps gender equity
    • Parental leave has proven to increase female retention, advancement, earnings and retirement security (here)
    • For each month that men take paid parental leave, their partners earn 7% more per year (here)
  • Employees deeply value paid parental leave
    • In a recent study, 90% of working mothers said they would consider leaving their jobs for better parental benefits (here)
    • 82% of Americans say they want a federally-mandated paid maternity leave (here)

To celebrate all we’ve accomplished, our team shared what they’re most proud of since joining the team:

I'm most proud of how much we have done to improve the single hardest moment for women's careers (going on parental leave) ... one that is often shrouded in insecurity and fear. We've been able to help advocate for so many women (and men!) in a way that is empowering and truly life-changing.

Allison Whalen, CEO & Founder

What am I most proud of? Growth! Growing a category of support that didn't exist before Parentaly. Growing from a one-woman bootstrapped operation to a global team of 25+ employees and coaches. Growing our overall impact for working parents, with companies investing in our parental leave programming to support employees all over the world. And growing as humans: new babies, new friends, new life experiences... all while tackling new and exciting work challenges together.

Rich Burke, Head of Growth

When I reflect on what I am personally most proud of during my time here, it's working alongside a team where we constantly evolve and optimize everything that we do in order to deliver the best possible experience for the folks going through our programs. It sounds cheesy, but there are processes that my team and I used to do 100% manually that are now completely automated and systems in place that have become second nature to how we operate. Working with such thoughtful, smart, and creative people is incredible.

Sara Ophoff, Senior Program Manager

I’m most proud about doing work that makes parents feel confident and empowered about their careers during a time that can be overwhelming and challenging – not only for our clients and users who go through Parentaly’s programs, but also with our advocacy work on LinkedIn, through our podcast and other big campaigns that make a difference. It’s been pretty rewarding to build a brand people know and love because what we’re doing resonates with so many employees’ experiences in the workforce.

Jenna Vassallo, Head of Brand & Marketing

I am so proud of the way we've approached growth with such care and intentionality - with every adjustment we've made to our offerings, we've never lost sight of our goal to provide the most supportive and valuable experience for our users. I love looking back on the early stages of conversations and building that have led us to the experience we offer today. Personally, I am extremely proud of the work I've done to scale and automate our backend!

Rachel Andes, Program Associate

I am most proud of the work we do every single day to make a positive impact on working parents! Everyday I get to work with an amazing group of people…we work hard but we also have fun.

Sarah Gruber, Client Partner

I'm proud of scaling an employee experience that consistently delivers positive outcomes for new parents and their organizations. Our north star has always been the user, and we never sacrifice our high quality bar!

Mansi Kothari, VP of Product & Experience

I feel a sense of pride that I get to work behind the scenes supporting everyone. I’m proud to see all of the collaboration between the team and how Parentaly positively impacts employees.

Leo Manalo, Executive Assistant

I'm most proud of going through the Parentaly program myself! I'm so proud to work for and promote this company in a time where parental leave and supportive policies are at the forefront of a national conversation. But beyond this, I'm most proud to call myself a participant.

Emmy Carragher, Enterprise Partnerships

I’m really proud of the work I did to expand our coaching bench globally at Parentaly. It was so rewarding, not to mention insightful, to connect with talented coaches from around the globe. This expansion not only enriched our coaching offerings but also strengthened our commitment to making a meaningful impact on families all over the world.

Nicole Hagemann-Bex, Senior Coaching Operations Manager

I have tremendous pride in the knowledge that what I am doing will change the career landscape for new parents, particularly mothers. This will make it more likely that my daughter can have a career AND a family without worrying about the unintentional negative impact of taking parental leave. Nothing makes me prouder than that.

Mindy Himmel-Brown, Strategic Partnerships

In my short time at Parentaly, I'm proudest of the work we're doing with our clients' ERG groups to elevate the stories and advice of actual working parents. It's such an impactful way to spread the word about Parentaly as an essential resource for all people growing their families, and the managers who support them!

Alex Diskin, Enterprise Account Manager

I'm most proud about using LinkedIn to connect with others. I was recently able to share a helpful return to work doc with 50+ new people looking to make a difference at their company. Was pretty cool that people from Chewy, McDonald's, Honda, Cisco, AWS, Walmart and more want to integrate just a piece of what we have to offer. Also...I'm so proud of the way I feel as an employee at Parentaly. For the first time in my career my personal interests align with my professional interests and I've never felt more motivated.

Jenny Hurwitz, Strategic Partnerships

I'm really proud of being able to help the Experience team by handling the supportive functions so they can focus on the bigger picture. It feels great to know that I’m making things easier for them and contributing to the team’s success.

James Mango, Executive Assistant
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Use any of these tips in your OOO?

We’d love to see them. Share a copy of your OOO with us at hello@parentaly.com or add your tips to this Google doc and we’ll share them in a future post!